If I Want To Discuss

Me and my wife are having one of our disagreements conserning the amount of friends I have who are female. She doesn't like it and is constantly jealous of them. She winds me up to the point that I am shouting at her and can't control my irritation at the fact that she is unwilling to talk to me properly and expects me to talk from a point where I literally am unable to understand what she is saying. She says to me 'Why won't you understand me?' lying down, turned away from me with her back to me. She won't communicate in way that I can understand so what am I supposed to do? As the discussion turns towards a more furious arguement I say 'I can't win with you, I can't even draw', she replies with 'why does this have to be a game? why does this have to be a fight?' it is a fight because she has made it so. She is jealous and wants to talk to me and yet refuses to talk to me in a way I can understand, when I try to give ideas as to how to solve the problem she pretty much spits them back in my face. Maybe that's a problem there, I keep giving fixes to the problem, not really listening to how she feels, but I don't really know what else to do? How can I empathise? I don't really get jealous, I don't mind if she has guy friends. Though I have asked God I think I need to try harder because it doesn't seem to be coming to me.

I guess in the end after this rant really I have come to the point where I can understand that neither of us is doing it right, really I do get to defensive in my discussion. I need to work at listening to her better and try to relate on a higher level rather than just giving whatever solution pops into my head. I just wish she could face me when she is talking to me, give me some body language to work with.

Thanks for reading. May God bless you all,
NL